How time flies! It has been five years since the launch of the book, Provocative Manners: The Sauce of Life with my best friend, Katrina. There’s nothing more amazing, nor more exhausting than writing a book. As I am now working on a second book, the love and pressure has started all over again and there are no better feelings than the love and dedication put into a book for others to enjoy! Buy your copy on Barnes & Noble or Amazon and enjoy!
Let’s Enjoy Each Other’s Company.
Sometimes we forget how to handle the stress of Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years that we get caught up in ourselves and our own desires, while forgetting the needs of others. Instead of focusing on the gifts, the food, or the parties, let’s focus on spending time together or going out of our way for someone who is dealing with a difficult time. Learn to enjoy the company of every person, whether we get along or not. Annoy them with kindness! You know the saying, “kill them with kindness”.
This isn’t easy advice to follow. It’s easier to give our time and money to those we love and show respect in return, but sometimes it means more to out of our way and enjoy the company of those who we cannot handle! Enjoy your Holiday Season and take time to think and care for not only those you love but those who might annoy you, but also are deserving of love too.
The Special Moments.
1. Pick one person in your life who needs to feel loved and do something extra special for them. Send them flowers, make them cookies or even a funny card in the mail will brighten their day.
2. Go out of your way to invite someone out for coffee who might annoy you, but needs a shoulder to lean on.
3. Make extra time for those you love. You might make a small effort here, but don’t they deserve your time and attention. Even setting up a date night for you and your significant other or even more fun, schedule a date night for a couple who hasn’t had a night out without the kids in awhile.
4. Truly take the time to listen to someone. Instead of zoning out when someone is seeking advice or even just to be listened to, maybe try to absorb what they are saying and be interested in them.
5. Learn to love others more than yourself. This might seem obvious, or you are rolling your eyes at this point, but life has enough tragedies, woes and selfish people who want the attention all the time. Take a moment to accept your sufferings, appreciate your blessings, and stop dwelling on your own problems, oftentimes you will realize that others have it much worse and are in dire need of a friend.
Wait, maybe it’s just a lack of common-sense. We aren’t talking about spending excessive amounts of time primping and prodding just to buy groceries! No, we are talking about the basics here:
Did you brush your hair and teeth this morning?
Did you take a minute to put on some mascara, eyeliner and a dab of lip gloss? (Come on, Ladies, you know what your face needs to look more awake!)
Are you wearing matching socks? (And Men, brown socks and black shoes do not compliment! Don’t even get us started on the white socks and black shoes!)
Did you get dressed? And no, pajama pants that look like yoga pants do not count!
These questions might seem ridiculous and wreak of common-sense but for some reason common-sense is extremely lacking in today’s society! Why is it so hard for people to put themselves together in the morning? We don’t mean you have to leave the house looking like the Duchess of Cambridge (even though she always looks fabulous!) but give yourself 15-20 minutes to get ready and make a little more effort with a little less laziness. You will be amazed at the results!
“Carelessness in dressing is moral suicide.” ~Honoré de Balzac
You think there is no time to get ready for work in the morning? Think again! Here’s your solution: wake up 20 minutes earlier!
You think that your children must look put together for school, and there is no time left for you? Think again! Here’s your solution: wake up 20 minutes earlier! Get yourself dressed first and then wake up the family. Children will lead by example.
You think, “this is my day off, why should I get dressed?” Please reconsider this thought process… If you plan on staying home, that’s fine, wear the yoga pants but at least brush your hair and apply a small amount of makeup. You may have an unwelcome guest sooner than you think. If you do leave the house to run errands, it is important to put yourself together for the day. You might run into a client, future client, past co-worker, old high school crush, or maybe even a future lover!
FIRST IMPRESSIONS DO COUNT!
Unfortunately, the theory of “individuality” has been taken to an extreme! An extreme of laziness, self-deprecation, lack of common-sense and in the end, just irresponsible as the next person. You won’t lose your personal style or values by dressing with style! It has become abnornal to see a woman put together with clothing fitted properly, makeup complimenting her facial features and her feminine physique isn’t hidden behind frumpy t-shirts. Men, show your masculinity, be proud of it! Don’t wear baggy pants and t-shirts (enough said!). Please get rid of the Hawaiian shirts or save them for Hawaii. Why is it so hard for men to wear a polo and khaki pants? Here’s a tip: Women love a well-dressed man! Use that to your advantage!
“Like every good man, I strive for perfection, and, like every ordinary man, I have found that perfection is out of reach – but not the perfect suit.” ~Edward Tivnan
There’s something very telling about a person and how they drink their coffee. As a mother, I survive on many cups of coffee, but that wasn’t brought about by motherhood. I was an avid coffee drinker before children. I’d have to say that my coffee taste has changed from a light blend of coffee with cream and sugar to a dark roast with only half and half, no sugar. Have you ever thought what your cup of coffee might say about you?
Black? Cream? Sugar? Flavored syrup? Whipped cream? A touch of cinnamon?
Whatever your coffee preference, you will be surprised how it relates to who you are as an individual. Do you make the most of your talents and experiences while using them to further your passions, career or hobbies? Or do you sit by the wayside hoping someone will notice your talents and only plan on utilizing them if you are given constant recognition?
Our culture has attempted to eliminate “personal pride” with a fear of offending others who might not have achieved the same as us. That’s no way to live life as God has given each one of us unique abilities. So, instead of comparing, or allowing jealousy to ruin relationships, spend that energy on improving yourself and ultimately for the good of society.
We only get one chance at life, don’t waste your limited time. As a mom, I quickly discovered my need for personal time to decompress and what my talents were most needed in my vocation. That might be through running, cooking, reading, crafting, painting, event planning, whatever it might be, find the time to discover your passions.
What does your coffee drink says about you?
Black Coffee: If you prefer your coffee without any teasers, then you probably don’t easily change your mind and it’s difficult for you to stray from a consistency. This is a great quality, as you are very reliable, but be prepared, your opinions may not always be the best for everyone else. Show your talents, use your God-given gifts, but remember to occasionally step out of your comfort zone. Caught you! This is your chance to take your big dreams and put them into action. Stopping dreaming and start making things happen – you have the abilities.
Coffee with Cream: You can’t drink coffee without cream? Then you are reliable, organized and flexible. You are probably stubborn, because unfortunately you can’t drink black coffee or coffee with sugar; you have restricted yourself to a specific taste! You know what you want in any given situation and can make quick decisions. You are flexible not only with your creamer, but with any curve-ball thrown your way as well. Try to focus more on the details – this might not come easy, but sometimes the details are extremely important. You are able to vary the amount of creamer without freaking out, most of the time…
Coffee with Sugar: These are the people who love the sweet things in life. Not just sugar-wise but they take advantage of every adventure life throws at them. Talk about flexible, these people are willing to try anything. However, they like to try many things all at once, they get really excited and they may have a difficult time following through as new excitements pop up. If you want to have a great time, find a coffee-mate who loves their sugar! (These include all of those addicting tasty treats: Frappuccino concoctions and syrup laden lattes)
Espresso: If you are one of the rare people who prefer a shot or several shots of espresso then I salute you. Once in a blue moon this is my drink of choice, but it’s normally after a night of absolutely no sleep or a day I choose to forget. If you drink espressos on a daily basis, and I mean, every. single. day. then you are natural born leaders and like to view life as black and white, but that also means it is difficult for you to let loose and enjoy the sweet things in life. Maybe next time, liven up your espresso with caramel sauce and whipped cream, just for something different. Do the same thing in your life, take a few days off from your demanding job and drink your espresso alone at a coffee shop without your phone (no technology!), you don’t event get a book. This time just sit alone with yourself and think in quiet, if you can do this, then next time choose a book that motivates you to be even a better person.
Now this isn’t an exact science, but it sure was a great conversation starter at my last dinner party. It’s your turn. Ask your friend, “how do you like your coffee?”